An eight pound baby in the hospital is expected to have caused lacerations—if not a c-section. Midwives don't have this attitude, and they don't come to expect this in their practice. Why?
Because position and pushing matter: how the woman positions herself, and how she pushes during delivery. All of the women we saw had to labor and deliver on their backs, and were "coached" (or hollered at) to bear down regardless of whether she had the instinctive urge to push. Women are put on their backs, regardless of what position their body tells them to be in, and despite the fact that we know that the sacroiliac joints can't open up in this position. Supine delivery increases the likelihood of a difficult labor, shoulder dystocia, and a forceps or vacuum extraction. And women are yelled at to push despite the fact that we know there's an actual reflex that prompts the woman to push when the fetus is descending properly and smoothly. All I could think was that if the women we saw could labor in whatever position they liked (read: obstetricians and nurses weren't afraid to get down and catch babies in whatever position they're coming, like midwives do), and they could push when they want to push (with eased guidance from a tearing-conscious practitioner, rather than a shouting person who's worried about lawsuits), we would not have seen so many tears.
It's not a small deal. One of my patients had to be sewn up for an hour (for a six pounder). I wrote in my journal about another patient's horrible tearing:
The nurses were so busy today. One shouted that she needed a Foley urine catheter taken out and would a student like to learn to do it. I finally volunteered, not to learn but because I already know how to from my job. It turned out the patient who needed the Foley out was the poor young lady who another student had yesterday - she had described an episiotomy and horrible tearing - what the teacher said they unofficially call a 'vaginal C-section'. We had asked how big the baby was, and it was only six pounds. The nurses are like "The poor girl's never going to sit the same again." So I go into the room, tell her what I'm going to do, that it's fast and pretty painless, that it can be done without really uncovering anything, and then I wash my hands and put on gloves. When I come back to the bedside, the girl is SOBBING. Completely crying and shaking. She was so afraid it was going to hurt, because of how she had already been hurt. I was so upset after that. They completely butchered this girl, as far as I feel. It's her first birth. She'll spend her whole life remembering this.Of course, my wife is telling me it doesn't matter—I could prove that forcing women on their backs for labor and delivery actually kills people, and doctors still wouldn't stop doing it. You need to be on your back for the EFM, and for the safety of your baby (read: the convenience of the staff).
On the other hand, the epidural patients can't get out of bed, and have no urge to push—and now that I think of it all my patients with tears had epidurals.
Yeah it makes me mad to read this too! One thing we were never taught in nursing school, was how to change the harmful practices we were witnessing...nor how to deal with it when we just knew it was wrong. Frustrating!
ReplyDeleteIt's my first time visiting your blog and I like it a lot. I do want to say though that I had all three of my babies naturally with fantastic midwives but I still tore with all of them. Granted, it was much less than it could have been with a doctor... but I still had to be stitched up after delivering all three them.
ReplyDeleteI am a doula and a former respiratory therapist and I am loving this blog! My first daughter was born at a hospital (8 years ago to the day that this blog was written) and I was given an episiotomy by a physician who just walked in and sat between my legs with a mask on and not so much as an introduction. I watched myself tear from the episiotomy in the mirror. I was so upset by the whole ordeal. The stitches were so swollen and painful that they came apart in the middle while healing. I could barely walk and I called the nurse hotline several times only to be told this was normal. Now I am older and wiser and I do my very best to make sure my clients know the risks of an episiotomy. After that birth I had two more babies and only one gave me a small tear. When I get pregnant with baby #4 I will be birthing at home with a midwife who respects my private areas and the fact that I have to live with the consequences of any damage done to my vagina/perinuem.
ReplyDeleteI just want to echo that I had my last baby (our 4th child) at home and he was shockingly 11pounds at birth and I did not tear... I had my second child in the hospital (my only hospital birth), my little girl was little over 6 pounds and I had my worst tear... there is SOMETHING about that!!!
ReplyDeleteat home I was standing up pushing that large baby out, he would not have come any other way. at the hospital I was of course ordered to the bed and ordered to NOT PUSH because the doc was there. luckily I knew better than that, but they told me previously that the expected an 8 pound baby or larger and my first birth (7lbs) was very long and very hard so I gave it all I had for the second and ripped up bad... I wouldn't let her stitch me though.
anyway, I love your blogs and I think your wife is a hero... have more kids! :O)
Angora: Like I've said elsewhere, there was a lot of "*shrug* this is how it is" in nursing school. We could tell it was wrong, but couldn't do anything about it because the scene is run by obstetrics and administration.
ReplyDeleteAnna: I think it's still possible to tear with midwives, of course...some of that is inherent nature, and some of that is that midwives can have practices that cause tearing. I think my sister-in-law tore with a midwife, and they attribute it to her yelling at her to push, if I remember right.
Wendy: That's awful. I was appalled at the attitude that episiotomies are just normal practice, especially if you have a big baby...it was sort of like "Well what do you expect, your baby was so big!" And risks of episiotomies...tears, like you said, and infection! And fistulas. And nerve damage.
Heather: Thanks! I'm glad to see I'm not the only one making a correlation.
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ReplyDeleteI had both my kids in the hospital.
My first OB was an old man, delivered thousands and thousands of babies...and episiotomy-happy. I believe he gave me an episiotomy. However, I also had an epidural for that one. And "needed" forceps. Induced by pitocin 1 week early because "I could".
My second recent baby I had a different dr (mid 30-s and trained by midwives). I decided to go the drug free route. (Though I was induced by the dr breaking my water almost a week overdue. I was at a 6 and not really having many if any real contractions I could easily tell.) I LOVED the delivery. The baby did have a hard time coming out from the scar tissue from baby #1. The dr told me he might have to snip a little. THANK GOODNESS he kept waiting. He was seriously deliberating. Though part of it was my fault since I was scared to push because I'd heard about the "ring of fire"...which apparently not everyone feels. But I only had a small surface tear that was left to heal on its own-no problem.
Anyway-I'm definitely doing the no pitocin, no epidural, no early induction route the next time. Recovery was a breeze compared with the first. Also I was able to poop afterwards in the hospital, which I contribute to having a drug free birth without real tears.And I was even able to walk around the maternity floor quite easily.
Anyway, a bunch of rambling...but maybe even next time I'll have a home birth1
I really like your article. I have a friend who tore badly during birth, and that's the part still traumatizing her. How horrible that so many nurses/OBs just take bad tearing for granted.
ReplyDeleteI gave birth to an 11 pound, 13 ounce, baby naturally, with minimal tearing. The birth was in the hospital, but most of the (42 hours of...) labor was at home, and we were fortunate when we transferred to have a nurse-midwife attending in the hospital who was very natural-birth-conscious (our midwives called ahead and arrange for her to be there). She helped push aside a ring of old, hard tissue that had been impeding dilation, and held it out of the way while I pushed through it. That's all that tore: that old, dead tissue. For a first-time baby who was almost 12 pounds! I think what helped was what you're saying: more natural positions (including squatting), gradual labor, waiting for the urge to push, and pushing at will. I pushed an hour and a half, and it was exhilarating.
I feel so terrible for women with bad tears, because I was squeamish about even the few stitches I had. It's such a sensitive area — both physically and emotionally.
I had a 3rd degree tear (read: extremely bad) during the birth of my daughter. I didn't have anything, aside from the few shots in my perineum prior to the vacuum going in. 3 different times. the pain of that was literally the worst of the delivery and I tore up like nothing else.
ReplyDeleteI was bruised for a month. yes a month. And it took 3-4 months before my stitches fell out. Needless to say, my husband couldn't come near me for a very long time and it was extremely difficult to walk/sit/move for several days after my daughter (7.5 lbs) was born.
If I had different help during my labour, aside from a doula, I suspect maybe things would have been different.
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